A Representer asks for LOVE advice from you
One of our readers has turned to us for help. She is in a dilemma and would like the Represent readers to give her advice on what she should do. If anyone has been in a similar situation or feels that they are qualified to give advice to her… please do so in the comments box. You can send in your problems to editor@represent.co.za for our readers to help you solve them.
Jack…
y is a 24 year old virgin. She has been seeing a married man 18 years her senior for the last few months. He recently acted in a rather fatherly way to her which has confused her a lot. She tels us the full story:
We met in January @ work. We started kissing early in Febuary. He told me that he wanted to kiss me since the first time we met. I didn’t even think of him in that way. He was just a pal, because I had a boyfriend and he is married.
So the kissing was not a relationship, because we were both involved. He told me how unhappy he was and that he and his wife are no longer talking to each other. I felt sorry for him at that time. But he helped me to get through a relationship where my boyfriend used to blackmail me emotionally. I am single and he was there for me throughout the ordeal.
He would phone to see if I am ok. And sometimes to ask if he can come to my place. At first we just kissed, but after two monts, things got heavy. But we never had sex. I’ve never had sex before and he doesn’t want to pressure me, which I respect and appreciate.
But it is just the kiss on the forehead that happened while we were kissing a while back. It made me think about what is really going on here. This is not a relationship right? Because we both said that we can’t have a relationship since that first kiss. I even joked and said that I need a kissing-buddy, nothing more and he said he wanted to be my kissing-buddy. We sms each other and occationally have a conversation on the phone…
I don’t know why we ended up together, but we argue all the time about the silliest things and laugh about it afterwards. And that is so funny, becoz he likes to tease me and told me so.
This is the first time that I am doing this (being with a married man). I am not proud of myself, but he is a good friend after all.
It’s so confusing, that’s why I would appreciate it if you guys can do a story on this, because I don’t think I’m the only one who battles with this issue…
